I Really Like Him, But I’m Scared About What My Friends Will Think…
February 21, 2009
“Hi Katie,
Well I randomly came across your video yesterday. You seem really nice so I hope you can help me out with this.
Anyways I’ve bassically known this guy for about three years. We’re not exactly friends but we talk sometimes. He’s not exactly the best looking guy and a lot of the girls think he’s pretty dorky. He’s been turned down by every girl he’s ever asked out. Well for the entire time I’ve known him I’ve always just considered him a nice guy and nothing more. I couldn’t really picture myself ever being in a relationship with him.
The past two months though something has definately changed between us. I don’t really know when it happened but one day we just started having a conversation and I guess after that we just kept talking. I never really payed that much attention to him before, I always thought he was kind of plain but after talking to him I’ve begun to realize we have tons of things in common. We share the same interests, the same religious beliefs.
This guy is just charming, funny, can hold a decent conversation and extremely well mannered and he treats me with complete respect. He’s a guy that’s not afraid to stand out from the crowd. These are qualities that I deffinately like in a guy. Well ever since we’ve gotten close alot of people keep telling me the guy likes me and teasing me about how weird it would be if I liked him back. They think he’s not my type. When they bug me about it I just laugh it off but honestly I think I’m really falling hard for this guy.
So I really want to let him know how I feel about him but at the same time there’s this huge part of me that’s just scared about what everyone else might say. Do you think I should let him know or just remain friends with him.”
~ Rose, 18
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Dear Rose,
You should DEFINETLY let him know how you feel! Don’t let other people control who you DO and DON’T date. People are always going to judge you for what you do….like if you DON’T date him, people are going to think its cause your shallow and you didn’t date him because of his looks. And if you DO date him, people might think its ‘weird” or whatever. It’s really a lose lose situation!
So do what makes you happy….your friends are not the ones that are dating him…your are! If you decide to date him and not let your friends make up your mind for you….they will eventually get over it support your decision if they are true friends. Maybe if they got to know him better too they will see why you like him so much.
In highschool, I had a very similar situation. This guy liked me for a LONG time, and I wasn’t really attracted to him. I was afraid of what people would think! But we had a connection and I decided to go out with him anyway, and tried to ignore my friends comments. It was funny how after like a week or so they stopped making the comments and they really started to see why I liked him. I am really glad that I decided to date him cause he was a great boyfriend and treated my like a princess. He taught me how a real boyfriend should treat a girl and a learned how to have a healthy happy relationship.
If you find a TRUE connection with a guy, it is truely is RARE…so hold onto it…don’t let other people hold you back from having happiness in your own life!
xoxo
Katie
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