Do You Ever Feel Not Good Enough?
July 24, 2008
Hi Katie,
Do you ever feel like you are not good enough for the person you are with? For some reason I never feel good enough for my current boyfriend.
It is nothing he says or does, it is me thinking like “why is he not dating prettier or smarter girls”. What can I do to see that I am good enough…or should I date someone else? ~ Katelynn
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Dear Katelynn,
Thanks for asking this, it has happened to metoo! Although I know it is not true and that I am plenty good for this guy I have been off and on with for the past few years for some reason I always had that feeling like I was not good enough.
After many years of dating lots of different kinds of guys, I found that different guys will make you feel different. For example there are some guys (and this goes for people in general) that make me feel like the most beautiful girl in the world.
And some guys that I feel like myself when I am around them, and then there are the guys that I never feel like I am good enough for.
So I came to realization that the guys I should be dating are the ones that make me feel like the only girl in the world… after all, isn’t that what we are all looking for?…a guy to make us feel special!?
Anyways, thanks for bringing that up, I was just talking to my sister about this same topic the other day =)
xoxo
Katie
3 Comments, Comment or Ping
ladymiss
I think you feel as if your not good enough for him, because you are insecure about yourself. But instead of beating yourself up over it, why not try to work harder on things you feel you are not good at?? Let your boyfriend inspire you to become better. The truth is … the harder you work on whatever you feel your lacking, more likely your going to succeed. Its a paradox of insecurity.
Oct 21st, 2008
Carol
Hello Katie,
I often feel that I’m not good enough for my current boyfriend (whom I have been with for a little over a year now). He comes from a very intelligent family and is respectably intelligent himself.
Though I feel confident that I am intelligent and level-headed, it is obvious that my boyfriend is much more academically inclined than me. A lot of it has to do with how we were raised, as it was very different.
Now he is hinting at an engagement and my concern is that I am not the best person for him due to our intellectual differences. (Albeit everything else is very compatible.)
I’m not sure how to reconcile with this issue or feeling and have lately thought of taking some time apart to give him the opportunity to assess our capacity for happiness in light of our differences. I’m not quite sure what to do but now that the holidays are over and life is settling down, a discussion is in order.
Jan 4th, 2009
yesman
My boyfriend’s ex was a doctor, and his mother would always talk about him to my b/f in front of me when I visited, i’m no way near clever enough to be a doc, and again don’t come from an academic background like he does and so i just feel like i’m not good enough for his family.
people can be so mean…….
Dec 5th, 2009
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