How Do I Start Up A Conversation With Boys?
March 29, 2009
Hi Katie,
Well, I have never ever been good with “boys”. I’m just not that confident to be the one to approach them. Well there is this boy named Richardo. And he is a bad kid. I really like him. And well my friend says he likes me also.
But I’m just not sure how to start up a conversation. I’ve actually have been knowing him for around three years, but never talked in person other than hi and byes. Could you pretty please help me. (:
<3 Nelly, 14
xoxoxo
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Dear Nelly,
Since guys are traditionally the ones that are supposed to make the first move and ask us girls out, it can be hard for the a girl to be the one to make the first move. Here are some tips about what you can do to initiate some conversation between you and your crush:
First, you should try to hang out in places where he hangs out. This could be at the mall, movies, or at the baseball field if he plays sports. But whatever you do, don’t stalk him, just subtly try to make yourself conveniently available to talk to him in person.
Next, take initiative to ask him out! You would be surprised by how many guys are too afraid to ask out a girl they’re interested in. They are just as shy as you! Take matters into your own hands. Walk up to him smiling and introduce yourself. You can say, “Hi Ricardo! I’ve seen you around but never got the chance to introduce myself, I’m Nelly!” Try not to bug him if he is really busy, but at the same time, don’t let the opportunity to talk to him pass you up just because you are nervous.
A great way to start conversation is to start small talk. Comment on something he’s wearing or saying something about the place or event you’re both at. Try to get him to feel comfortable around you. And keep a friendly positive attitude and smile a lot! It’s hard for anyone not to wanna keep talking to someone who is friendly and happy.
Next, start flirting with him! This can mean touching him lightly on the arm, for example, or laughing at his jokes. Just be playful and communicate that you’re interested. Compliment him! For example you could say something like, “I love your style!”
To keep the conversation rolling, ask him some questions about himself, like what he likes to do, what his favorite place to eat is, or if he likes to play sports. Try to see if you have anything in common with him. Now that you have found some stuff you both have in common, ask if he’d like to do it together sometime.
Also, here is a little tip on what NOT to do when asking a guy out. Don’t run up to him and say the words quickly. And defiantly DO NOT have a friend ask him out for you! Guys HATE that! It is embarrassing and they will think you are immature.
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