What Do I Do When A Guy I Like Doesn’t Like Me Back?
April 21, 2009
Hey Katie,
I really like this guy, but he is one of my best friends. So I finally got up the courage to tell him and he told me he doesn’t like me that way.
Now I feel awkward around him and I don’t know what to do! I feel like it was a huge mistake telling him because now we don’t even talk. What should I do?
Alli, 14
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Dear Alli,
First, I would like to say that I think it was great that you had the courage to tell him how you feel! That takes a lot of confidence and courage. But now that he told you that he doesn’t share the same feelings you have to respect that. The only thing you can really do is accept his decision and try to continue as friends if that is what he wants too. Now that your feelings are out in the open, things between you can never go back to exactly how it was before. It’s different now, but that’s ok. Because before you secretly liked him and hoped he would like you back, and now you can stop wondering.
So try not to wish that everything would go back to how it was, because there is no way to go back in time…what happened, happened. If he doesn’t want to talk to you, you have to respect that and give him his space. Don’t force your friendship onto him…he is just as confused as you are right now. Think about it this way, if you had never said anything and then you would have never known his real feelings. You would look back and regret not telling him how you felt, and wonder if he would have felt the same. So that is great that you were able to overcome the fear of rejection and express your feelings.
Finding out the truth and knowing for sure is almost always better than not knowing and wondering what would have happened if you had only told him. So be glad that you don’t have to live with regret! And please try not to let this experience stop you from being open with your feelings next time you like a guy. Maybe the next guy will share your feelings and you will forget all about this one!
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