It Bothers Me When He Talks To Other Girls, What Do I Do?
April 20, 2009
Hey Katie,
So me and this guy have been talking for about three weeks. He has a reputation for playing girls, but as always, I didn’t listen to any of the things people were telling me.
In school he and I always hang out together and a lot of people think he is my boyfriend cause they see us together, but he is not. Last night I went on his Myspace page and saw that he was talking to some other girl on the phone that night. He also never called me last night because he was talking to the other girl on the phone.
This isn’t the first time that he’s done something like this. I realize that I’m not his girlfriend but it still bothers me when he talks to other girls especially since he’s always saying how special and important I am to him. So my question is am I over-reacting or should it be bothering me? And what do I do about it?
Chelsea, 15
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Dear Chelsea,
There is really not much you can do about him talking to other girls since you are not his girlfriend. You are still getting to know each other and it is probably not a good idea to say anything about it to him at this point. I think what is bothering you most is what other people are saying about him. You hear people talk about him being a player, and it seems like although you don’t want them to be right, part of you is just waiting for them to be right and for him to “play” you.
Stop looking at his myspace. When you only see partial conversations things can be extremely misinterpreted. I have guy friends that say stuff to me sometimes that if my boyfriend read he could easily get jealous and assume it meant something else when it means absolutely nothing. You are going to drive yourself crazy by going on his Myspace and looking at the girls he is talking to and their conversations. You are not seeing the whole picture and are assuming that he is having flirty conversations with other girls and it only upsetting you.
Since it sounds like you want to have more with him, just give him the opportunity to show you that he is into you and get to know him better. If you show him a jealous side of yourself right from the start and get upset that he is talking to other girls, he is going to get scared away and think that you are a jealous girl…no guy likes that because he will think that it will only get worse if you are actually his girlfriend.
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Kennedy
I know how you feel I have the same problem! =(
May 24th, 2009
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