How To Gain More Self Confidence!
April 27, 2009
Hi Katie,
I’m kinda in a slump! I notice nothing but flaws in myself and I know I’m pretty in my own way but I just don’t have that confidence, I never have. My whole life has been nothing but put downs from people that wont stop or leave me alone!
How do I gain more confidence when I know I’m unique but don’t believe it? I’ve tried hair cuts, different makeup but I just don’t believe I’m pretty? Can you PLEASE help me I have so much on my mind and just need a load off!
Madison, 14
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Dear Madison,
Great question! Confidence is something that I think everyone wishes they had, but most people lack. True and lasting confidence comes from within. And if it were easy, we would all have it! Many people try to derive confidence from their outer appearance, but then as soon as they have a bad hair day or begin aging, then their confidence flies out the window!
I think in your case, you have been listening to everyone’s negative comments. You say you’ve been dealing with people putting you down you entire life and that can be draining! You have heard these negative comments so much that now you believe they are true about yourself and that is why it is really hard for you to see that you really are a beautiful person.
Here are some tips you can use to boost your confidence:
Remind yourself out loud how beautiful you are every day…Say “I’m Confident!” “I’m Gorgeous” “I’m a loving and caring person!” This may sound kinda corny at first, but over time you will start to believe it and feel that way about yourself!
Stop using negative phrases such as “I can’t…” Telling yourself this will stop you from ever trying.
Be careful how you talk to yourself. We are our own worst enemies and talk to ourselves worst than anyone we know. So try and stop yourself from repeating put downs or negative comments you have been told about yourself.
Learn how to accept compliments! Next time someone says something nice about you, thank them and remember what they said and believe in it! If you stop focusing on the negative things people say and remember all the good things, you will feel much better about yourself!
Stay positive at all times! Try hard not to complain or talk negative to yourself or in conversations. When you start to be more aware of what you talk about, you may be surprised how much negativity that comes out of your mouth.
Now don’t be too hard on yourself, because changing your self perception and boosting your confidence is not going to happen over night. This may take a while, but it is totally possible to change and feel good about yourself again!
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Paige
Hey Kaite ,
Im 15 and i have acne . I use makeup and everything and it sometimes doesnt cover it up .
And i get break outs because i stress over it too much.
Can you give me advice on what to do ?
Thanks ,
Paige (:
May 20th, 2009
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