How Should A Girl Ask A Guy Out?
May 1, 2009
Dear Katie,
I like a boy and have for nearly a year and all of my friends say I should tell him, but with one of them she forgot her friends for the boy and the other is obsessed with a boy who turned her down, I don’t want to, what are some good tips for aksing him out?
Lulu, 12
Dear Lulu,
When it comes to girls asking guys out here is what you do and don’t do. Never ask him out when he is with a group of his friends.
First, you should try to hang out in places where he hangs out. This could be at the mall, movies, or at the baseball field if he plays sports. But whatever you do, don’t stalk him, just subtly try to make yourself conveniently available to talk to him in person. But never ask him out when he is surrounded by a group of his friends, just talk and mingle so that when you do talk to him one on one and ask him out you both will be more comfortable talking to eachother.
Next, take initiative to ask him out! You would be surprised by how many guys are too afraid to ask out a girl they’re interested in. They are just as shy as you! Take matters into your own hands. Walk up to him smiling and introduce yourself. You can say, “Hi! I’ve seen you around but never got the chance to introduce myself, I’m Lulu!” Try not to bug him if he is really busy, but at the same time, don’t let the opportunity to talk to him pass you up just because you are nervous.
A great way to start conversation before you ask him out is to start small talk. Comment on something he’s wearing or saying something about the place or event you’re both at. Try to get him to feel comfortable around you. And keep a friendly positive attitude and smile a lot! It’s hard for anyone not to wanna keep talking to someone who is friendly and happy.
Next, start flirting with him! This can mean touching him lightly on the arm, for example, or laughing at his jokes. Just be playful and communicate that you’re interested. Compliment him! For example you could say something like, “I love your style!”
To keep the conversation rolling, ask him some questions about himself, like what he likes to do, what his favorite place to eat is, or if he likes to play sports. Try to see if you have anything in common with him. Now that you have found some stuff you both have in common, ask if he’d like to do it together sometime.
Also, here is a little tip on what NOT to do when asking a guy out. Don’t run up to him and say the words quickly. And defiantly DO NOT have a friend ask him out for you! Guys HATE that! It is embarrassing and they will think you are immature.
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j.e.d
what i do is ask him who he likes first and if he doesnt tell u keep bothering him and asking him.if he says its u then say your ok with it and he will ask u out.if its not u then listen to katie`s advice
Oct 10th, 2009
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