Why Do Guys Just Stop Talking To Girls All Of A Sudden?
August 16, 2009
Dear Katie,
So I really like this guy… I’m pretty sure this is a typical thing…I really really like this boy in my class, and everybody says he likes me. (Everybody as in my friends and others in my class that know I like him). We’ve kept in touch over the summer and e-mailed each other like everyday. (He’s even invited me to his house a few times.)
Anyway, all of a sudden all his calls and e-mails have just stopped coming. He only sends me like chain letters and one-worded answers to questions if I ask any. I really wanna talk to him again but I don’t wanna seem desperate and don’t know what to say in an e-mail or on the phone! I just wanna know whats going on. Plz help. Thanks a bunch!
~Alexis, 13
P.S He’s known I like him ever since the 5th grade, I’m in 7th.
Dear Alexis,
There are SO many reasons why a guy just stops talking to a girl all of a sudden. He may have lost interest, met someone else or got really busy with something else…the list goes on and on. There is no point in you trying to figure it out in your own head. You may never really know exactly why he got distant so suddenly.
The only way to know for sure is to ask him directly, otherwise you need to let it go and just chalk it up to the unknown. Don’t try and assume that you know exactly why or create some crazy scenarios in your head of what you THINK may have happened. This will only get you feeling even worse. You don’t know the reason so don’t pretend you do. And it probably has NOTHING to do with you. Don’t start blaming yourself or thinking it is something you did. 99% of the time it is something HE is going through and has nothing to do with you personally.
This sort of thing happens to girls all the time, believe it or not! Guys just don’t want to be the ones to tell a girl they changed their minds for whatever reason. They would rather just avoid making a girl feel bad.
The least you can do is just try to talk to him like you always have and feel out the situation. If he still continues to blow you off, your best off just taking the hint and walking away so that you can move on and meet new boys. Don’t waste your time with a guy who doesn’t reciprocate your interest.
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