What Do I Do If He Calls Us “Friends With Benefits”?
August 18, 2009
Hi Katie,
I really like this boy who is 14 and I’m not sure how to get him to ask me out. He admits that he likes me and that he WOULD go out with me. He’s single now and he calls me everyday and we talk for at least an hour. We also text and email.
The problem is that I haven’t had a boyfriend before and he has had several girlfriends. The other problem is that he seems to also like other girls and so what should I do? He is one of my best friends and he even calls me babe and sexy and he calls us friends with benefits.
Paloa, 13
Dear Paola,
Sounds like this guy is into you, but he may not wanna commit to one girl. It’s not necessarily a bad thing that he has been in other relationships and you haven’t. But it’s not a good thing that he says your his friend with benefits. Sounds like he wants all the benefits that comes with having a girlfriend, but without all the commitment and responsibility of an actual relationship. Maybe his past relationships were a lot of drama so he is afraid to get into one again.
Don’t let him take advantage of you…don’t give him any of the “benefits” if he wants to see other girls, say that you wouldn’t feel right about it and that you want a guy that wants to be with you and no one else. If he sees that you have respect for yourself, he will in turn have more respect for you and value what you have to offer him as a potential girlfriend.
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