Why Wont My Friends Talk To Me?
August 19, 2009
Hi Katie 
I have a question about friendships…okay here’s the story so at school there was this freshman that had a major crush on my boyfriend and they had one class together which was home ec. and she would often flirt with him and he found her rather annoying one of my best friends was in this class as well and they usually hung out to avoid the freshman…so a couple weeks later she (the freshman) comes up to my group of friends and tells them that my boyfriend had been flirting with her and he wouldn’t stop texting her.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a while and he likes me sooo much so my friends came and told me what she had said and at first I was upset but I thought about it and I really trusted him and I knew he wouldn’t do anything like that so I asked him and he told me the entire story with honesty and it sounded real rather than what she had said.
So I confronted the girl and asked her and she dragged it on for three days and my boyfriend and I had been fighting about it this whole time when she finally decides to come clean and tell me that she had been lying about everything and that she really liked him…so when the air was cleared I was happy and went and told my friends the truth of what she said and once I did they got upset and instantly got mad.
Well at least two of the girls and the one I didn’t expect to get upset didn’t but soon later I found out that she had told other people I was talking bad about them when I wasn’t…and they would do things to me and so it got so bad it ended up in the school office with one of my counselors and I explained to her that I didn’t understand why they would’ve gotten upset and angry that it was true that he never flirted…and now the group of girls and I aren’t friends but I wanted to know what your take on this was…? why they could’ve possibly gotten mad that he didn’t flirt?
Laura, 16
Dear Laura,
You wanna know why your friends got mad when you told them that your boyfriend didn’t flirt. From what you have told me, it sounds like the girls were trying to warn you that your boyfriend was flirting, and when he told you he wasn’t maybe they didn’t believe him.
The only thing I can see that would possibly make them upset is if they still think that your boyfriend is being dishonest to you and they are offended that you are listening to him and not them. If this is the case try and listen to what your friends have to say and let them voice their opinions…and then try to explain to them again why you trust your boyfriend. They don’t know your boyfriend as well as you do obviously…so maybe you and your boyfriend can sit down together and talk to your friends about what happened and that he is trustworthy.
Your friends might just be trying to protect you…so be kind to them and thank them for looking out for you… let them see that they have nothing to worry about and that your boyfriend does not intend any harm for you.
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