How Do I Feel Comfortable With My Looks When I Think I’m Ugly?
August 19, 2009
Hi Katie,
I feel ugly and uncomfortable in my body, I always feel like there is somebody staring at me or that everyone is prettier than me. And please don’t give the everyone is beautiful no matter what line, if you want I could send u a picture of me for you to look at and be the judge, if not oh well but please help me. Thanks Katie.
DO YOU THINK I’M PRETTY?
I ATTACHED MY PICTURE
Vanessa, 13
Dear Vanessa,
Seriously I want you to know that I felt the same way when I was thirteen. We are our own worst critic and it can be hard see what other people see when they look at you. You see your own face in the mirror everyday, and after a while it’s had to have an objective view of your looks and what other people are seeing. We see ourselves through the filters of our own minds, which can be very murky and misleading. It’s super easy to spot the negatives in ourselves and then compare ourselves with other girls. I did it too. But I’ve learned, no matter how pretty you are…there will always be someone “prettier”. So you can’t keep measuring yourself up to other girls, you have to stop judging yourself so hard.
Trust me, no one is looking at you thinking any of those things…people are far to concerned with themselves, lol! I don’t think that EVERYONE is beautiful physically…but there is beauty in everything if you look deep enough. Sometimes people who are not necessarily beautiful on the outside, are so kind and loving that it radiates out of them and they become beautiful. I’m telling you this because I have found it to be very true. The more I have worked on myself inside, the more beautiful I feel on the outside. But you are already beautiful on the outside! So anything else on the inside is a bonus for you!
You are a beautiful girl, I got the picture you sent me. I wish you could see what I could see…
Just realize that you are not alone in feeling the way you do right now, there are lots of girls that feel just like you. Beautiful girls criticize themselves all the time and think they aren’t pretty enough.
I think confidence comes in time and with maturity. You are at a tricky age, where you are transforming from a girl to a woman. Learn to be patient with yourself and be fortunate that you are beautiful. Sometimes the easiest and fastest way to change your state of mind is to be grateful. Look at all the things you have to be grateful for…cause trust me there are girls who have it pretty bad. You have great skin (which many girls your age don’t have), your a healthy weight (which lots of girls struggle with but you don’t have to), you have gorgeous eyes, your hair is thick and beautiful (which some girls get extensions to have hair like yours). So are you starting to see that you have a lot going for you?!
Keep thinking about what you have to be grateful for and you will realize you have it much better than a lot of girls and you will start to see the beauty that I see when I look at your picture.
2 Comments, Comment or Ping
April
Hi I know exactly how you feel!!! Ive found three good ways to be happier with yourself. One every time you look in the mirror point out a good quality instead of bad. Also listen to fast upbeat songs you want to dance to. And lastly do things you like! Hope it helps! :3
Sep 23rd, 2009
meme
well im ugly as dog crap. i just hate myself. never had a bf
. and i probably never will. im flat as a board. my hair looks retarded and even tho i got it straightend the only thing i can ever do with it is put it in a ponytail. i wear glasses . i hate myself and my life with a passion.. bye
Mar 8th, 2010
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