What Do I Do If I Like My Friend’s Boyfriend?
August 30, 2009
Hi Katie,
I’ve heard you are awesome at this stuff, and I have A huge PROBLEM!!!
So OK I’ve been going out with this guy for about two weeks and there is this good friend of mine (Lisa) who is going out with another guy. Lisa and my boyfriend hate each other and always have. But me and her boyfriend really like each other! He wants us to dump our partner and go out but that is kinda mean. But I don’t know what to do because I really really really like him!!! Help me!!!
My friend really likes him too but he hates her and was too nice to say no when she asked him out.
I don’t want to hurt her because I’m scared she wont want to be my friend anymore.
Jenna, 12
Dear Jenna,
It’s really not cool to date your friend’s boyfriends no matter how much he likes you or you like him. It will damage your friendship and she will be extremely hurt and feel backstabbed. If you are not happy with your current boyfriend and don’t like him that much, then break up with him. But don’t do it just so you can date your friends boyfriend.
Also, be careful of this guy because he might be playing games. He is telling you that the only reason he went out with your friend because he didn’t wanna hurt her feelings… but it is possible that he is just saying this to make you think he doesn’t like her and that he only likes you. Sometimes guys say these things like this because they like you both of you and want to convince both of you that you are special and are the only guy he likes!
Think about it, if he really didn’t like her at all he would have dumped her by now. Find out from Lisa how he talks to her…does he tell her he really likes her and compliments her? He could saying the same thing to her as he is to you…so beware!
However, if a considerable amount of time has passed (like a year or more), and you still like this guy, than it would be fine if you were to date him. If you and Lisa are still friends you definitely need to check with her first to make sure she is OK with you and him dating. She will most likely be fine with it since so much time has passed, but she will appreciate that you considered her feelings and asked her before you decided to date him. Always respect your friends and treat them well, and never dis them for a guy!
No Comments, Comment or Ping
Reply to “What Do I Do If I Like My Friend’s Boyfriend?”