What Do I Do If I’m Falling For A Guy I Can’t Have?!
August 27, 2009
Dear Katie,
Hi Katie! 
Okay. I’m in a really sticky situation. I’m falling for a guy I can’t have. I mean he likes me just as much as I like him but he goes to a different high school, he is a Senior when I’m a Sophomore, and he’s a race that my mom feels oddly about. When we hang out together and when he kisses me… It’s incredible! I have butterflies and there are fireworks going off everywhere!
I really love him. And, I think about him all the time! It’s compulsive. But what do I do when I have to sneak out to be with him? (I’m not allowed to date until December) What if he’s not ready for a commitment? I don’t know what to do, please help.
Jade, 15
Dear Jade,
It’s great that you found a guy that you can experience that magical feeling of fireworks and butterflies with! I know how exciting it is! But right now you need to be patient while waiting for December to come. You can’t change your parents rules and it wouldn’t be fare to him if you ask him to commit to when you are not allowed to date him.
Talk to him about your situation and tell him that you will be able to date in December and that you are willing to wait until then when you will be able to spend more time together. Ask him how he feels about you being able to see him more and if he would want that. Seriously December will come faster than you think and then be allowed to date…and if you guys have as strong of feelings as you described, I’m sure they wont fade by December!
However, it is possible that by the time December comes you will have found a different guy that you like better and you will be glad that you didn’t commit to him. So for now it is probably best to just leave your relationship with him open and see each other when you can without having any major commitment or expectations.
Time is always a good test. If your feelings are still strong over time, than you know it is real love. By December if you DO still like each other than you will know that your connection with him is special and he worth pursuing a real relationship with!
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