How Do I Get My Crush To Ask Me Out?

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August 24, 2009

Hi Katie,

There is this guy I like and I think he likes me too but I can’t seem to figure out if he likes me or not. I read my friend and his journal (which I know was completly wrong of me) and found out he might ask me out.

I heard his brothers tell everyone he likes me. But he hangs out with other girls. My other friend said he does that to make girls he likes jealous. I’m pretty sure he likes me but I dont know why he doesn’t just ask me out already.

Is he just nervous? Should I ask him out?

Kennedy, 13


Dear Kennedy,

He has told his friends he likes you and written in a journal that he is going to ask you out, so I think he definetly likes you. He is just waiting for a the perfect opportunity to ask you out. Here are some things that you can do…

Make yourself available! When he asks you what your plans are for the weekend, don’t start rattling off a list of things you have to get done. Instead say that you are open still and don’t have any plans. This leave him with an opportunity to ask you out since you are not busy.

Find times when you can be alone with him! Guys don’t like to ask a girl out when she is with her friends or if he is with his friends in fear that if they are rejected other people will witness it. So try to find excuses to be one on one with him, like walk to class together, or at lunch don’t hang with your friends the entire time. Tell them you will be back and go near where he is hanging out and read a magazine or something. If he sees that you are alone, he will be much more comfortable approaching you than if you are with all your girlfriends.

And when he flirts with you flirt back! (So that he knows that you are interested too!) When it comes to asking girls out, guys are very scared of rejection. Esspecially when they are your age and just starting to ask girls out, they like to make 100% sure that the girl is into them too. A good way to flirt back is to laugh at his jokes, have some body contact like squeezing his arm or sholder, use good eye contact, and complement him!

When he is sure that you like him back, he will be WAY more confident that you will say “yes!” when he asks you out. So help boost his confidence and don’t be afraid to show him that you like him back.

xoxo
Katie
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7 Comments, Comment or Ping

  1. Maddie

    Hi I’m Maddie,
    I looked thru some questions and some where helpful just not exactly what I’m looking for, you see I like this guy it’s just that, well, take some other girls for example they know their chrushes or are friends with them, but he doesn’t seem to want to be around me. We have small talk like: “Did you see the Simpsons episode yesterday, wasn’t it funny” but he seems to talk to all the other girls. I’m even starting to belive that he likes my friend because at one of my parties he was talking to her the whole time. Oh, and also about 3 or 4 other people that I know like him. So I realy want your opinion, Should I move on to someone else and if not, how do I show him my feelings without telling him?
    Thanks for taking your time and reading this and for all of your help,
    Maddie

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  3. Okay so I have a crush on the most popular boy at school and he texted me and he started liking me from our conversation so both of us like each other but I want him to make the first move. He does flirt with me and all and I smile and blush and flirt back but I want him to ask me out! I got this message and it said the love of my life will kiss me this Tuesday 2/12/2013 and my friend is like totally excited for me but I told her its not true! What should I do! I want him to ask me out!!

  4. Ashley Lomeli

    Ok so i have a problem. There’s this guy. Guy A (there always is ;) ) and he’s always looking over at me and when i look over he catches my eye but i always break eye contact because im too shy. And rumors around school are he used to like me but then tried to back away cuz i started going out with this other guy. Guy B ( I never thought i would ever have a chance with guy A and u should’ve seen this poem guy b wrote me.) But at the time guy A and I both liked each other but we never knew it until one day at lunch my bff shouted it out to him and he had a smile on his face. After that some of his friends came up to me a few days later and said you know guy A likes you too ;) u guys are made for each other. U both have huge crushes on each other. So i broke up with guy B and he still likes me (this is important later on) so his best friend (who is also my friend and she’s a girl) always told him u like her she likes u just ask her out!! And my friend is in their math class when she would always tell him that and finally one day she told me what guy a’s response was. My friend said he told her, ” i dont wanna ruin mine and her friendship or his and guy b’s friendship. So i made the courageous decision to ask HIM out and i never would do that for anyone else. and he said no. He told me he said no because he sucks at dating and when he starts to go out with someone he gets nervous to talk to them. He said he would go out with me in a year because it will give him time to mature. All my friends told me he said that because he cares about me and he wants our relationship to go perfect. Ok that was a background story now here’s the problem. Rumors are he doesnt like me anymore and he doesnt want another girlfriend. ( alot of girls at my school like him and he’s already had maybe 2 or 3 girlfriends this year) but if he doesnt like me why does he always stare at me when he gets a chance. In 1st period its 2-3 times A Day. In 2nd its 4-5 times, lunch he’s always near me but not next to me. He’s a distance away, 5th its 3-4 times and in 7th its 4-5 times a day. I need ur help!!! What do u think? My friends think he has a soft spot for me but is a bit over me or he likes me he is just confused on what to do.

    Ashley Lomeli

  5. Ashley Lomeli

    Ok so i have a problem. There\’s this guy. Guy A (there always is ;) ) and he\’s always looking over at me and when i look over he catches my eye but i always break eye contact because im too shy. And rumors around school are he used to like me but then tried to back away cuz i started going out with this other guy. Guy B ( I never thought i would ever have a chance with guy A and u should\’ve seen this poem guy b wrote me.) But at the time guy A and I both liked each other but we never knew it until one day at lunch my bff shouted it out to him and he had a smile on his face. After that some of his friends came up to me a few days later and said you know guy A likes you too ;) u guys are made for each other. U both have huge crushes on each other. So i broke up with guy B and he still likes me (this is important later on) so his best friend (who is also my friend and she\’s a girl) always told him u like her she likes u just ask her out!! And my friend is in their math class when she would always tell him that and finally one day she told me what guy a\’s response was. My friend said he told her, \" i dont wanna ruin mine and her friendship or his and guy b\’s friendship. So i made the courageous decision to ask HIM out and i never would do that for anyone else. and he said no. He told me he said no because he sucks at dating and when he starts to go out with someone he gets nervous to talk to them. He said he would go out with me in a year because it will give him time to mature. All my friends told me he said that because he cares about me and he wants our relationship to go perfect. Ok that was a background story now here\’s the problem. Rumors are he doesnt like me anymore and he doesnt want another girlfriend. ( alot of girls at my school like him and he\’s already had maybe 2 or 3 girlfriends this year) but if he doesnt like me why does he always stare at me when he gets a chance. In 1st period its 2-3 times A Day. In 2nd its 4-5 times, lunch he\’s always near me but not next to me. He\’s a distance away, 5th its 3-4 times and in 7th its 4-5 times a day. I need ur help!!! What do u think? My friends think he has a soft spot for me but is a bit over me or he likes me he is just confused on what to do.

    Ashley Lomeli

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