Why Is My Friend Spreading Mean Rummors About Me?
September 4, 2009
Hey Katie,
I am in serious need of help. In science my friend was texting this guy and then he sent her a picture she asked me my opinion I said he was hot. That night he asked for my msn and she gave it to him and me and him were really getting along, but I think she started to get jealous (I didn’t like him and I’m pretty sure he doesn’t like me back)
Anyways, I got his number he got mine but then people started telling me she was saying stuff about me and then she stopped talking to me for a while. Soon after we were friends again but then she started telling people I was a slut. Then she got over telling everyone AND NOW SHES STARTING AGAIN BUT IT’S ABOUT A DIFFERENT GUY! What do I do? 
Tanya, 15
Dear Tanya,
If guys like you better than your friend (as it seems they do from what you wrote) than there is a very good chance she is just jealous of you. When girls get jealous of another girl, they try to tear her down and make themselves look better by making her look worse. Your friend might be doing this to you. She is trying to make you look bad because she feels that it will make her feel better about herself and maybe guys will like her more than you. Instead of getting angry with her, you should feel bad for her that she has to do those kinds of things to her friend because she wants to feel better about herself. She is insecure and probably sees confidence in you that she wishes she had. Try and ignore her comments…I’m sure others can see through her motives too. She is most likely not doing it to be mean to you and make you feel bad, she is acting out of jealousy and feeling that she is in competition with you.
If you wanna continue your friendship with her, you can try to help her boost her own confidence and point out to her positive things about herself that she can focus. Like for example, “Wow, you are so good at talking with guys, I wish I was that comfortable with flirting”. This way, if she feels that there are some qualities she has that you don’t, she wont feel that she has keep tearing you down to feel better. She will find confidence without being at your expense.
However, you can also choose to not be friends with her anymore. If she continues this pattern of destructive rumors with your dating life, you may wanna reconsider why you are even friends with this girl. You may find that you are better off without her.
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