My Friend is Being Mean, What Do I Do?
August 17, 2008
My friend and I have been friends for a long time now. We are like sisters. But sometimes she can be a real jerk to me. Like when we are with other friends. Which is almost all the time.
Everyone keeps saying that were like the movie mean girls and shes Regina and I’m Gretchin. I kinda agree too. But not in a good way. Idk… she makes me mad sometimes. I’m just starting to about have it with her and starting to get really mad at how rude and controlling and just mean shes getting with me and all our other friends.
She asked me to go to with her to the mall today but instead I made up a lie that I was grounded and my mom wanted me to stay home. Then I told her bye and she gave me a really snobby “im the victom” bye back.
What should i do about her? shes really getting on my nerves and i don’t have the guts to stand up to her! If I even tried to stand up to her, that would be the biggest accomplishment of my life. ~Shaina
Dear Shaina,
Good friends look out for your interests. If she is making you feel victimized, you may want to look at the reason you have allowed her to treat you that way.
If you want to continue being friends you need to set boundaries with her… this can be done in a nice non-confronting way. Just let her know how you feel and that your not ok with the way she treats you sometimes.
Remind her that you also love her sweet side and that is what draws you to her as a friend.
Maybe because she is so close to you she was able to reveil that side of herself….but if she sees how you are affected by it and if she truely cares about you as a friend she will take note of her actions and be more aware of your feelings.
xoxo
Katie
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alexa atkinson
my friend is being really mean to me. She wants me to go shoping with her on friday , and she knew that i was going to have a sleep over with another friend on that day thats why she picked and im feeling really bad but on the bus i think i want to tell her the truth but im really scared… what should i do?
Mar 24th, 2011
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