Am I too Young to Kiss?

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September 2, 2008

Dear Katie,

First i just want to tell you about me and my boyfriend. Me and him have been going out for 8 months now & we really like eachother. We are both 12 and we are in 7th grade.

Is that too young? We do hug and we kiss. Should we have not kissed? And i am still a little nervous whenever i am around him. Is that a good thing?

Thanks so much. I REALLY appreciate it.

Thanks again,
Amanda

Hi Amanda,

Great question girl! Wow, 8 months is a long time to be in a relationship at your age…that is wonderful that you guys have made it work for that long. Being a certain age doesn’t necessarily mean you will be ready or not ready to kiss or be intimate….every person is different. So to answer your question, no I don’t think 12 is too young, but ONLY as long as you are comfortable and you are not doing anything because he is pressuring you to do it.

I think the core of it is as long as he is not pressuring you and you feel comfortable with what you guys are doing together than that is all that matters. As soon as you soon feel that he is pressuring you or that you are doing something that you aren’t ready for than that is when you should stop and talk about it with him. He may not realize how you are feeling until you communicate it to him.

You mentioned that you are still a little nervous around him, and this may be because this is all so new to you. He is the first guy that you have really opened up to and had a long relationship with so the newness of it all may be causing some nerves. It may be butterflies and if you are still feeling them in a GOOD way…like excited every time he calls or every time you guys hang out….then YES that is a good thing; it means you are really into him!

Just monitor it and make sure you are not nervous in a way that feels bad, I don’t think this is the case, but just in case it is it could mean that you are just not ready to be going as fast as you guys are going and maybe need to slow down.

xoxo

Katie

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Amanda

Wow. THANK YOU SO MUCH. You really know what you are talking about. and i really apreciate it

Sep 3rd, 2008