How Do I Tell A Guy That I Don’t Like Him?
November 3, 2008
Hi Katie, I have a problem with this guy. His name’s mike and I know him pretty well, we were sort of aquaintences/friends.
He kept holding doors and helping me up and stuff, and I though that was nice, but then on a bus ride home from a marching band thing (it’s required) he kept trying to hold my hand and hug me and stuff. I didn’t want to be rude, but it felt really weird.
I’ve been avoiding him for a week but it always feels really weird to see him. Am I being a jerk? What should I say to him, or should I just let our “friendship” thing continue to fade?
~ Samantha, 14
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Dear Samantha,
This is a great question! I know exactly the situation you are in…you think of him just as a friend and he likes you and thinks he has a chance of more than just friends. You are not being a jerk for avoiding him, but since you both go to school together you probably can’t avoid him forever…so here is what you do.
The best thing to do in this kind of situation is to let him down easy and don’t make it any more awkward than it has to be. For instance, in midst conversation he tries to grab your hand pull away but then in a super friendly tone say “hey silly! whatcha doin?! hehehe! I thought we were just friends?” You can say “Hey were friends, right? Can I get your advice on a guy I like?”
Eventually he will get the hint, and if he still doesn’t then it is ok for you to be straight forward and say you don’t have the same feelings. He may not realize that you don’t like him back…guys very often mistake a girl just being friendly as her liking him. So when dealing with him, there is no need to get nasty with the guy, you can’t blame him for tryin! Just let him down the way you would want someone to let you down if you were in his shoes.
xoxo Katie
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