How Do I Know If He Likes Me or Not?

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February 2, 2009

Dear Katie,

“I asked this guy to a Sadie’s Hawkins dance (girls ask the guys). It was really hard for me to find a time to ask him because he traveled everywhere around the school. Finally on THE DAY of the dance, I asked him. I told him I was nervous and that I was going to ask earlier but I couldn’t (which was true).

He was shocked…I could tell. He said not to take it as a rejection but he couldn’t go because he had to study for a competition the next day. Now, I can’t even talk to him but whenever I see him, my heart skips a beat. What should I do? It’s so hard for me to talk to him. It’s been about three months.

Also, his friend liked me so the guy I like thought I was over him. He though I liked his friend, but now it’s over. His friend doesn’t like me anymore.

Please give me advice on what I should do. My friends say to forget him and maybe I will, but at my school I cannot find another guy. It’s so hard since my school is only composed of…not many cute guys out there (magnet school comprised of about 450 students/freshman year).

Also, another incident happened which also hinders me talking to him. I was in his bio class when the teacher sends me out because the teacher thought I was talking. I was completely embarrassed because I WAS NOT talking. After class, I asked the teacher what it was that I was doing. He told me he sent me out to get the class quiet and that it worked. I was upset but the teacher apologized.

So now whenever I try talking to the guy I like…I’m afraid he might think back to that scene of me getting sent out and not like me. He’s into very pretty and nice girls…key word: Nice. I don’t think being sent out of class contributed to that fact of me equals nice.

Please Help! xo Christina

Dear Christina,

I went to a small school too, so I can relate to there being limited good looking guys! You say its been about three months since you asked him to the dance and that you are nervous about talking to him. But to him it probably seems like you are ignoring him. You should break the ice and talk to him….act like nothing happened and that you totally forgot all about the sadie hopkins dance.

He may think that your not talking to him because he didn’t go to the dance with you and that you took it personal. So show him that you did not take it personally by acting like you always have around him, and talk to him. If you’re not sure what to say, ask him about his competition that he had…or if you have a fun activity or party with friends, invite him. Act confident and don’t doubt yourself. I’m sure he is not even thinking about the time the teacher sent you out of class. Afterall it could be something funny to laugh about with him….

That happened to me all the time in one of my classes in highschool. My friends were loud and always talking and I was the good one listening to the teacher and taking notes…but the teacher would always turn around and think it was me who was talking and I would get in trouble. But we all just laughed about it, I knew I wasn’t really disrupting the class so I thought it was funny.

So try not to take yourself to seriously, he is probably thinking about his own problems and life. So if you want him to see you as a nice confident girl, then be that nice confident girl. Go be nice and talk to him and make conversation with him, afterall, what’s the worst that could happen?

xoxo

Katie

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Laura .S

Well, i have the same problem well-ish, i mega like this guy and he will flirt but then when he is with his maytes he acts like nothing happened, we have gone out before and it went really but he dumped because he didnt want a gf over xmas! grrr anyway…..He likes me Best mayte and i have tired every thing i can think of to get his attention, got any ideas??? even hs best myte has tired to convinve him!!
Should i just gove up and take it he doesnt like me???

sad Laura

Feb 21st, 2009