Guys Always Want To Do More Then I Feel Comfortable With…
February 3, 2009
“Hi Katie,
I find that a lot of the guy’s that I talk to, and try to get in a relationship with, always tend to want to do more then I feel comfortable with.
I don’t want to get pressured into anything I’m not ready for, but it’s hard when all your friends are doing it, and it’s all that the guy wants.
~Alyssa, 15
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Dear Alyssa,
Great question! Sometimes it is hard to watch your friends do things that you don’t approve of. I admire you for not giving in to the pressures you are facing. Guys especially will be trying to get you to do things with them that you may not want to do. They will try and make you feel guilty for not wanting to go further…this is VERY common at your age.
Holding out can actually be a GREAT test to see if he is really into you or just wanting to fool around. If the guy doesn’t want to date you because you won’t give him any action, then you don’t want to be dating that guy anyway! If a guy doesn’t mind waiting for you to be ready then he is worth having a relationship with. The truth is, most of those guys you probably wanted a relationship with that were pressuring you for more, were probably not into having a relationship anyway, they just wanted more physically.
Believe me I am 25 years old and guys always try to pressure me into doing more, and no matter what I never give in….and I have really gained a lot of self confidence from being able to resist these types of pressures. As a matter of fact, a majority of the time, guys respect me MORE for saying no, especially the guys that are actually worth my time. A lot of girls will give into a guy’s pressures, and I have had guys tell me later that they really liked that I didn’t give in like those other girls and they end up liking me more!
xoxo Katie
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