Hey Katie,

I really need your help. So I’ve been visiting my boyfriend in Beverly Hills for the past couple of months when he’s being treated for cancer. The other night we were up talking and he was talking about how he might not have much time left and I told him he was being stupid.

Then he said that he want us to get married and have a baby because he said he loved me and never wanted to lose me…I don’t know if he’s just saying this cause he thinks he doesnt have much time or because he really wants to. What should I do?

Jennifer, 15

Dear Jennifer,

When people are faced with death, they often start to live in the moment and embrace their life. The realize how short life really is and that they want to make the most of the time they have left. This guy loves you if he wants to marry you. He is just realizes that he may not have time to wait, so he wants to do it now.

You just need to decide for yourself if this is what you want too. He does have a disease that could possibly be terminal, so you need to ask yourself if you are strong enough to deal with his illness. You very well might be strong and able to handle it, but that is something you are going to have to decide for yourself.

Here is how I see it. People have been cured by cancer. There is no certainty that he is going to die now or live until he is 80. We are all going to die at some point…there is no telling when. If you decide that you want to marry him, you have to live with hope and knowing that anything is possible and that his future is JUST as possible as anyone elses.

Dear Katie,

I am 15, and I started my period last year I have been worrying about it. My Aunt said apparently if you bleed a lot that you may have cancer, and I bleed heavily all the time so I am quite worried. Was my Aunt right?

Lilly, 15

Dear Lilly,

Every girl is different and some girls get heavier periods than other girls. Also it can be heavy sometimes then lighter other times. It doesn’t necessarily mean anything is wrong. Heavy periods are often caused by your hormonal changes and fluctuations and it is very common in teenage girls.
It is always a good idea to get annual checkups with a gynecologist. They will monitor your period and make sure that everything looks OK.

If you are still worried, you can always ask them to do a biopsy to test your cervical cells for cancer. This may help to put your mind at ease and know for sure that you are fine and don’t have cancer.

Dear Katie,

I like this boy…a lot. He acts like he likes me…a lot. He walks me home from the bus a lot. He is shy. Not when he walks me home but when we are talking at school. I don’t know why.

I say hi to him and he says hi and then turns to talk to someone else. I do not know what is going on when he does that. But then he is so sweet when he walks me home. I don’t know if I should ask him out or if I should just let it stay a friendship. I don’t want it to get awkward between us, so I don’t know what to do.

Sarah, 13

Dear Sarah,

Some guys are just better one on one then when they are with a group of their friends or people. It sounds like he is more himself when he is just one on one with you walking home from the bus.
You wanna know if you should ask him out or not. I think it may be a little too soon to ask him out since you are not really sure of how he feels. If you do ask him out, just be prepared for if he doesn’t share your feelings. Like you said, things can get awkward, so wait a little longer to see if he shows any signs that he likes you back.

If I were you, I would remain friends and occasionlly flirt with him and hint at liking him and find reasons to hang out with him more. This would help set up opportunities for him to ask me out and for him to flirt back too if he likes me.

So suggest to him that you really wanna see a new movie playing or that you wanna learn a new video game he plays or something. See if he suggests you guys see the movie together or if he offers to teach you the game. This way you are not putting him on the spot by asking straight out if he likes you back. You are giving him a chance to show you that he is interested without having to come out and say it.

Hi Katie,

I’m 7 1/2 stone (which is 105 pounds). I don’t look OVER weight, just a little belly, but when people talk about weight I get all embarrassed. I do have big thighs though. I want to know what I’m supposed to do about this. Thanks !

Ellie, 12

Dear Ellie,

There is nothing you can do about what people are saying. You are feeling uncomfortable because you are probably not 100% satisfied with your weight. But try not to let their comments get to you. You are twelve and your body is developing and growing. It is OK to have a little extra weight right now, I don’t think you should start focusing on any diets at your age. If you start worrying about your weight now, you will obsess over it as you get older.

Give yourself a break, don’t get too down on yourself for what others are saying to you. Just eat what your body needs for nourishment. Don’t get into a habit of eating for comfort or out of boredom. This will only set you up for a habit that will be harder to break later in life.

If you are eating normal and getting a normal amount of physical activity for your age then you are fine…don’t stress. You are probably just maturing earlier than other girls and getting hips and thighs (which is perfectly normal). Have fun and enjoy being young…you’ll have all the time in the world when you are older to worry about stuff like this.

Hey Katie,

I really like this guy, but he is one of my best friends. So I finally got up the courage to tell him and he told me he doesn’t like me that way.

Now I feel awkward around him and I don’t know what to do! I feel like it was a huge mistake telling him because now we don’t even talk. What should I do?

Alli, 14

Dear Alli,

First, I would like to say that I think it was great that you had the courage to tell him how you feel! That takes a lot of confidence and courage. But now that he told you that he doesn’t share the same feelings you have to respect that. The only thing you can really do is accept his decision and try to continue as friends if that is what he wants too. Now that your feelings are out in the open, things between you can never go back to exactly how it was before. It’s different now, but that’s ok. Because before you secretly liked him and hoped he would like you back, and now you can stop wondering.

So try not to wish that everything would go back to how it was, because there is no way to go back in time…what happened, happened. If he doesn’t want to talk to you, you have to respect that and give him his space. Don’t force your friendship onto him…he is just as confused as you are right now. Think about it this way, if you had never said anything and then you would have never known his real feelings. You would look back and regret not telling him how you felt, and wonder if he would have felt the same. So that is great that you were able to overcome the fear of rejection and express your feelings.

Finding out the truth and knowing for sure is almost always better than not knowing and wondering what would have happened if you had only told him. So be glad that you don’t have to live with regret! And please try not to let this experience stop you from being open with your feelings next time you like a guy. Maybe the next guy will share your feelings and you will forget all about this one!

Hey Katie,

So me and this guy have been talking for about three weeks. He has a reputation for playing girls, but as always, I didn’t listen to any of the things people were telling me.

In school he and I always hang out together and a lot of people think he is my boyfriend cause they see us together, but he is not. Last night I went on his Myspace page and saw that he was talking to some other girl on the phone that night. He also never called me last night because he was talking to the other girl on the phone.

This isn’t the first time that he’s done something like this. I realize that I’m not his girlfriend but it still bothers me when he talks to other girls especially since he’s always saying how special and important I am to him. So my question is am I over-reacting or should it be bothering me? And what do I do about it?

Chelsea, 15

Dear Chelsea,

There is really not much you can do about him talking to other girls since you are not his girlfriend. You are still getting to know each other and it is probably not a good idea to say anything about it to him at this point. I think what is bothering you most is what other people are saying about him. You hear people talk about him being a player, and it seems like although you don’t want them to be right, part of you is just waiting for them to be right and for him to “play” you.

Stop looking at his myspace. When you only see partial conversations things can be extremely misinterpreted. I have guy friends that say stuff to me sometimes that if my boyfriend read he could easily get jealous and assume it meant something else when it means absolutely nothing. You are going to drive yourself crazy by going on his Myspace and looking at the girls he is talking to and their conversations. You are not seeing the whole picture and are assuming that he is having flirty conversations with other girls and it only upsetting you.

Since it sounds like you want to have more with him, just give him the opportunity to show you that he is into you and get to know him better. If you show him a jealous side of yourself right from the start and get upset that he is talking to other girls, he is going to get scared away and think that you are a jealous girl…no guy likes that because he will think that it will only get worse if you are actually his girlfriend.

Hey Katie,

How do I make a guy like me? Or why don’t guys like me? They say I’m pretty but they don’t like me

Sally, 14

Dear Sally,

All you can do is be yourself. Don’t start acting like someone else, because he may start to lose interest. Guys like girls who are comfortable in their own skin and who are confident in who they are as a person (not just her own looks)

Boys might be looking at you while your not looking, so ask your friends if they ever see boys looking at you. They might just be too intimidated to approach you. If you know a boy thinks your pretty, try talking to him with a happy and positive attitude. Compliment him. Just like girls, boys also like to be complemented!

Boys love pretty and well dressed girls. So always try to look your best when you know you will see him. Most of all be confident! Boys love a girl bursting with high self esteem.

Hey Katie,

I don’t know if I like my boyfriend anymore. When I’m with him and we are hanging out with other people I feel awkward and embarrassed and I’m not sure why.

I also feel like I can’t look him in the eye when I talk to him now. I was fine before and could look him in the eye before we started goin out. But now he makes me uncomfortable. I thought I wanted to go further with him but not as far as sex or anything like that, just a bit more than kissing, any ideas? please help!

Rach

Dear Rach,

Sounds like you don’t really like him. If you liked him you wouldn’t feel awkward or embarassed. You will feel good when you are with him and be able to look him in the eye.
You also wanted to know if you should go further with him, but you are definitly not ready for that. If you don’t even like to look him in the eye, you shouldn’t even be with him. Trust me, it’s not going to get any better, and you are only going to like him even less.
Move on sweetie! This guy is not the right guy for you! Find a guy that makes you feel happy to be with.

So me(15) and my boyfriend(17) been going out for 5 months now. We have a great communication and we trust each other 100% but most important we love each other. Last week he told me that he needed to talk to me and so we did.

He wanted to talk about the summer and about how busy he is going to be. He said that in the summer he will barely have time for himself because he needs to work with his dad. He is worried about putting our relationship at risk because in his past relationships that was always a big problem that almost caused his relationships to end.

I told him that is ok that I understand and that I’m going to try to keep myself busy too so that I wont worry about it so much. The thing is that even though I understand now, I know that when the time comes and I want to chill with him over the summer without being able to it is going to cause problems. I love spending time with him and is going to be hard for me to not see him as much as I’m used to then when we have no school.

What should I do?

Catrina, 15

Dear Catrina,

I think the sentence that says it all is what you wrote:
“We have a great communication and we trust each other 100% but most important we love each other.”

That is truly something special and rare that is hard to come by. Sometimes when you love someone you have to think of them and not just yourself and what you want. Yes, there are going to be times when you wish he wasn’t busy so that you could hang out with him more, but you have to realize that he wants the same thing, but he is just not able to.

Try to think of it in a good way. Have you ever heard the saying absence makes the heart grow fonder? It really is true! You will look forward to seeing him and appreciate him so much more when you only get to see him limited times. So I think you have the right idea of finding your own stuff to stay busy with so that your not siting around waiting for him to have time for you…that would be no fun.

He obviously wants your relationship to work and doesn’t want this summer job to ruin what you have. So show him that your relationship is strong enough to last through this summer and that you are willing to make it work as much as him.

His past relationships were obviously not strong enough, so show him that what you guys have is special and is not like his last relationships…it is real love that can handle anything!
This will make your relationship even stronger and he will love you even more for being so understanding and making the best of the situation.

Dear Katie,

I have a problem with two guys. One guy lives in my neiborhood and the other guy I met at my house because my dad and my mom had a party. Their names are Eddie and Stevan. I really like them both but I have no idea if they like me back. And they are Spanish like me and they come to my house a lot.

Stevan (the one that I like) was showing off in front of me trying to impress me, but I was playing with my friends outside. Then they came outside and Eddie started showing off too. I don’t know if they like me for sure. And if they do like me, I have no I idea who I should choose. I need help please.

Gabby

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Dear Gabby,

From what you have said, it sounds like they both might like you. Sometimes it can be hard to tell if a guy really likes you or is just being friendly. You say they both come over a lot, are they there to see you or hang out at your parent’s parties? If they are coming over just to see you then they definitely like you.

Another sign is when Stevan was showing off (which guys do when they like a girl) it is quite possible that he was trying to impress you and your friends. And as far as you picking which guy to like, that is something you have to do for yourself. Which guy do you think about and like to hang out with and talk to better?

So over the next couple weeks, when they come over to your house, see which guy you feel more comfortable with and like to talk to and be around. This will help you decide which one you like best.

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Hello Katie! (:

Well lately, all of a sudden I started to break out. I uberly hate acne and epecially acne scars. The situation isn’t very bad. But you can tell even when I try to cover it with makeup.

I still want to get it solved before it gets worse because I don’t feel as pretty and confident about myself. So I was wondering if you have any home remedy for getting rid of acne and acne scars.

-Alexis, 14

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Dear Alexis,

There is definetly nothing worse then acne because there is no true cure for it. Sometimes no matter what you do it still happens so I can see your frustration. I have a friend who has always had really bad acne and she used to try and cover it up by using a lot of thick makeup and foundation…but it always ended up looking caked on and accentuated her acne making it more noticeable rather than covering it up!

So then she started using that all natural mineral makeup (like Bare Minerals) over the last year and her skin looks SO much better. She still has some acne when she washes off the makeup, but when she is wearing it, her skin looks amazing!

And as far as remedies you can do yourself, here are a few tips for keeping your skin clear and healthy:

Use a face wash and lotion for sensitive skin. Most people think they have to use creams with stonger ingredients which ends up irritating their skin even more! I love Oil of Olay face lotion for sensitive skin and their disposible mosturising face cloths! They make your skin feel amazing without any irritation.

Also avoid eating a lot of oily or greesy foods like fried foods, pizza, or chocolate. Your diet has a lot to do with your skin! So make sure to eat nutritious food, drink lots more water, and eat less greesy foods and your skin will clear up in no time!

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Hi Katie,

Well, I have never ever been good with “boys”. I’m just not that confident to be the one to approach them. Well there is this boy named Richardo. And he is a bad kid. I really like him. And well my friend says he likes me also.

But I’m just not sure how to start up a conversation. I’ve actually have been knowing him for around three years, but never talked in person other than hi and byes. Could you pretty please help me. (:

<3 Nelly, 14
xoxoxo

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Dear Nelly,

Since guys are traditionally the ones that are supposed to make the first move and ask us girls out, it can be hard for the a girl to be the one to make the first move. Here are some tips about what you can do to initiate some conversation between you and your crush:

First, you should try to hang out in places where he hangs out. This could be at the mall, movies, or at the baseball field if he plays sports. But whatever you do, don’t stalk him, just subtly try to make yourself conveniently available to talk to him in person.

Next, take initiative to ask him out! You would be surprised by how many guys are too afraid to ask out a girl they’re interested in. They are just as shy as you! Take matters into your own hands. Walk up to him smiling and introduce yourself. You can say, “Hi Ricardo! I’ve seen you around but never got the chance to introduce myself, I’m Nelly!” Try not to bug him if he is really busy, but at the same time, don’t let the opportunity to talk to him pass you up just because you are nervous.

A great way to start conversation is to start small talk. Comment on something he’s wearing or saying something about the place or event you’re both at. Try to get him to feel comfortable around you. And keep a friendly positive attitude and smile a lot! It’s hard for anyone not to wanna keep talking to someone who is friendly and happy.

Next, start flirting with him! This can mean touching him lightly on the arm, for example, or laughing at his jokes. Just be playful and communicate that you’re interested. Compliment him! For example you could say something like, “I love your style!”

To keep the conversation rolling, ask him some questions about himself, like what he likes to do, what his favorite place to eat is, or if he likes to play sports. Try to see if you have anything in common with him. Now that you have found some stuff you both have in common, ask if he’d like to do it together sometime.

Also, here is a little tip on what NOT to do when asking a guy out. Don’t run up to him and say the words quickly. And defiantly DO NOT have a friend ask him out for you! Guys HATE that! It is embarrassing and they will think you are immature.

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Hi Katie,

Ok I went to a dance with this guy I like but then he had to leave early and then this other guy that was at the dance that I also like started dancing with me and from the looks of it, it looked like he likes me.

It’s been three days since then and he is always being so nice and flirty with me but I don’t know if he is just being friendly or is trying to give me a sign that he likes me. Please help.

~Shanna, 14

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Dear Shanna,

He totally likes you! Guys are really nice and flirty only when they are into a girl. It is very probable that both guys actually like you!

Guys wont approach a girl and dance with her if they don’t think shes attractive. So sounds like the guy that is still flirting with you is REALLY into you…so maybe the question you should be asking now is:

Do You Like Him Back?!

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Hey Katie,

First I want to say all the advice you have given is very helpful, Thanks so much! My question is, how to make out with a boy?

I’m too embarrassed to ask my mom, and my sister is in college. Please help!!!

~ Morgan

Dear Morgan,

Great question! It’s scary thinking about the first time you are going to kiss a guy or make out with him. Wondering what to do and hope you are doing it right. But here’s the thing…he is even MORE nervous than you! The pressure is really on him to kiss well…not you! So now that I have hopefully eased your nerves about it, here are some simple tips to help your first kiss go smoothly!

Once your lips touch keep your mouth slightly open, just as you would when you are popping a grape into your mouth. You don’t wanna open it too wide then it is like your trying to swallow his face or something…which is not very sexy! Then let him lead and you follow. Meaning let him move his lips and you just try to follow his lips. As you do it more you will get more comfortable with the way he kisses. All guys kiss differently so it can take several times of making out to get in sync with each other’s kiss.

And since you are just starting to make out and kiss guys, a great tip for you is LESS is MORE! Meaning that don’t try too hard at first. Like don’t use your tongue or start moving your lips all fast and hard. You are new to this so ease into it and let him do all the work, you just try to follow along with him.

Hi, I’ve been dating my boyfriend for four years now and I just started noticing that he likes blondes, which upsets me because I have black hair. All the celebrities that he notices and points out are blonde and people who he used to have crushes on in the past are blonde.

My self-esteem and self-confidence have disappeared because having black hair is something I can’t change. He won’t admit that he likes blondes but how can I gain my self-esteem back if all the girls he likes are blonde and none of them look like me?

Nancy, 19

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Dear Nancy,

People often think they have a “type” but then they meet someone completely different and find that they like that type better than the type they once thought they liked! I always dated blonde hair, blue eyed, all-American looking guys. But then I met a guy that was ethnic looking with black hair and I ended up falling for him! I didn’t think he was my type at first but I ended up liking him MORE than any of the blonde guys I dated in the past.

Just because he admires blonde hair on celebrities, doesn’t mean that it is the only quality in a girlfriend that he wants. You may have ALL of the other qualities he is looking for…such as your heart, personality and sense of humor! Which in my opinion is WAY more important than a person’s hair color!

So before you get the urge to turn blonde(lol) take a look at how he treats you and the other qualities that he loves about you. That will give you a much better view of the whole picture and you will see all the other positive qualities you bring to the table in your relationship.

If your boyfriend is good to you and treats you with love, respect and admiration than try to focus on those aspects of the relationship. He probably doesn’t wanna say that his “type” was blonds in the past because that would obviously hurt your feelings since you have black hair…and he doesn’t want to make you feel bad.

So try to recognize that he does see beauty in you…if not he wouldn’t have been with you for four years now!

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Dear Katie,

I met this wonderful guy! His name is Cade, and we have so much in common. We are good friends, but I am madly in love with him. I want to ask him out on a date, but can’t come up with any good plans for one. Do you have any ideas that wouldn’t be too akward? Please answer ASAP!

xoxo Emily, 11

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Dear Emily,

Great question! Here are some fun and cool ideas for dates that would be fun for you and Cade:

~If he plays sports go to one of his games and cheer him on!

~Go out to icecream together! Everyone loves ice cream, he wont be able to resist this sweet treat!

~ Go to the arcade! Games are always fun to play with a guy. If there is not an arcade where you live, ask him if he has any video games at his house and tell him you want play one and have him teach you to play it.

~ Bowling is always fun. You can bring some friends along too so that it is not too awkward if you are too shy to be one on one with him.

~ If you have a public pool or community pool somewhere near by you…invite him to go for a swim! It would be a fun way to get some sun and flirt a little too! (Not sure where you are located though…it might be too cold where you are)

~ Go to the Mall! You can cruse around the mall together and grab a sandwich or smoothie together.

~ Movies are always fun…especially if you are unsure of what to talk about for several hours…you don’t have to do much talking, just watch the movie and enjoy each others company.

xoxo

Katie

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“Hey!

So I would really like some advice…I know it may sound a bit stupid! So new years eve I met this guy and like we both were kind of drunk and like we started making out, anyways we didn’t talk or anything after the party. Two weeks later I saw him again at my friends sweet 16 and he was telling his friends that he really likes me and that he is too shy to come to speak to me!

Then one of his friends pushed me on him and he smiled and after like two minutes we started kissing and then he was like I’ll meet you later I gotta go talk to my friends and he gave me this flirty smile lol like after his friend was like I need to talk to you and we went to the bathroom and he was there and then his mate went away. We talked for a bit, we started kissing and stuff! Anyways then his friends came and I went to mine…he came and told me we need to talk and he started saying I don’t know how to be a boyfriend and things like that and to get to know each other…I was like ok…then I had to leave and he gave me a kiss on the cheek.

Three days later he sent me a message from his mate’s moblie saying sorry for not texting and saying that he does not have credit and he’ll speek to me soon but he didn’t…it’s been like two weeks or so…what should I do? I really like him should I text him? Saying what? Please help!

xoxo Denise , 15

P.S. Sorry that its long! I’m maltese and he is english he just moved to malta a year ago and he going back in summer!”

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Dear Denise,

So it sounds like his phone doesn’t have any credit left, so maybe he can’t call you. If you text you wont know if his phone works or not or if he could actually receive your text. The only way to know for sure is to call his phone and see if it rings and if he answers.

If he doesn’t answer leave him a message and tell him you had a good time hanging out with him and that you wanna hang out again before he leaves back to England. Leave your number too just in case. After that if he is really into you and wants to get a hold of you he will find a way to call you back.

If he doesn’t call don’t take it personal, he may not have access to his voicemail. Next time exchange emails too =)

xoxo

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“Hi, My parents fight alot at home. When I was 11 I got really sick and the doctors said that I had a severe case of anxiety about my parents. (honestly, I don’t even remember worrying about it back then, but that’s beside the point). Anyway, they stopped for a while, but now they’re back at fighting.

They always insist that they won’t break-up, but the fights are so bad sometimes that I wonder wether or not the only reason they haven’t broken up is because they’re worried about something happening to me like when I was 11.

What do you think? What should I do?”

~ Samantha, 14

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“Dear Samantha,

I can totally relate to this question. My parents were the same way! They fought all the time but always told me they would never get divorced. I was almost kinda hoping they would get divorced just so they would stop fighting! Anyways, it is hard having to listen to them fight, I know. But the hardest thing for you to do is going to be realizing that there is noting you personally can do to stop them from actually fighting.

It is your parents relationship between each other and only they have control over their actions. I remember when I was 15, my sister and I finally sat my parents down and talked to them about their fighting and set bondaries with them. The bondaries were that they could not fight around us or any where that we could hear them. And that when they were mad at each other they couldn’t talk badly about each other. So maybe you can sit down with them and let them know that you are worried about them fighting. Just open up the doors to communication between you and your parents and set some boundaries so that you don’t have to be around the fighting anymore.

So I realize that this does not solve the problem of your parents fighting, I don’t think that is within your control and that you can actually make them stop. If they are going to fight, they’re going to fight. But at least if you set boundaries and make them aware of how their fighting effects you…then at least you will not have to listen to it or be around it.

Unfortunatly we can not control other people’s actions, so your parents may or may not respect these bondaries. All you can do is try.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to realize that you are not causing any of this and that their problems are separate from you. They want the best for you, they are just caught up in their own drama right now.”

xoxo

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Hi Katie, I have a problem with this guy. His name’s mike and I know him pretty well, we were sort of aquaintences/friends.

He kept holding doors and helping me up and stuff, and I though that was nice, but then on a bus ride home from a marching band thing (it’s required) he kept trying to hold my hand and hug me and stuff. I didn’t want to be rude, but it felt really weird.

I’ve been avoiding him for a week but it always feels really weird to see him. Am I being a jerk? What should I say to him, or should I just let our “friendship” thing continue to fade?

~ Samantha, 14

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Dear Samantha,

This is a great question! I know exactly the situation you are in…you think of him just as a friend and he likes you and thinks he has a chance of more than just friends. You are not being a jerk for avoiding him, but since you both go to school together you probably can’t avoid him forever…so here is what you do.

The best thing to do in this kind of situation is to let him down easy and don’t make it any more awkward than it has to be. For instance, in midst conversation he tries to grab your hand pull away but then in a super friendly tone say “hey silly! whatcha doin?! hehehe! I thought we were just friends?” You can say “Hey were friends, right? Can I get your advice on a guy I like?”

Eventually he will get the hint, and if he still doesn’t then it is ok for you to be straight forward and say you don’t have the same feelings. He may not realize that you don’t like him back…guys very often mistake a girl just being friendly as her liking him. So when dealing with him, there is no need to get nasty with the guy, you can’t blame him for tryin! Just let him down the way you would want someone to let you down if you were in his shoes.

xoxo

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Okay, so this boy is my ex and we talk all the time. He says he likes me and I sure do like him too. But he says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now.

I dont know what to do. Should I wait for him to be ready? Or should i just move on? What should i do?

~ Maddy, 14

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Dear Maddy,

My motto is this:

Ex’s are Ex’s for a REASON!

So there is probably a reason he is your ex-boyfriend and not your current boyfriend.

If he’s not ready now, he may never be ready. So why waste your time waiting for him, that time may never come. Its ok to be friends with him but don’t invest anymore of your romantic feelings in him.

Move on to a fresh relationship with a guy who has mutually feelings for you! You will have a much more enjoyable experience rather than trying to figure this guy out or make him be your boyfriend again.

Good Luck Babe!

xoxo

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Hey, I saw your video and I was just wondering, there is this boy who like me and I think he likes me so I want to ask him out but there are so many reasons not to ask him out.

Like, he hangs around with geeky boys, my friends think he’s ugly, he’s super shy and he’s shorter than me.

I realy don’t know what to do will you make a video on it please? Thank you ~Abby

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Dear Abby,

Sounds like you really like this guy for who he is. Think about it this way…you are the one dating him, not your friends. So if I were you, I would just not tell my friends I was dating him so that I didn’t have to listen to all their negative comments about why I shouldn’t be dating him. If there is no way to avoid your friends knowing that you are going out with him, then just tell them about all the good things that you like about him so that maybe they will see the positive side of him. If you are afraid they will tease you more for liking him, then maybe just hang out with him after school in the beginning and see if you really do like him. That way, if you do end up liking him a lot you can just tell your friends that you are with him.

Who you go out with is your business, don’t let your friends taste in guys effect who you do or don’t date. If there is still something about this guy you like, regardless of all the things you mentioned that weren’t great about him, then there must be something that is still intriguing you about this guy. So I think it would definitely be worth it to see where it goes!

xoxo

Hi!   Ok so i have some signs that I’m about to start my first period but I have not had it yet.   I feel like I am the only girl I know who still hasn’t started hers. 

When will I ever hit purberty?    I am 14 1/2 and still don’t have it yet.  Is there something wrong with me?  Do you know the timeframe or any signs.               

Bridget

 Dear Bridget,

I used to anticipate having mine too! I remember hoping I would get one and thinking that any little discharge ment that I would be having it soon.

I didnt have mine until I was almost 15. I’m pretty sure it was because I was always very active and skinny so I had mine late…

Usually if you are thin you will have yours later than other girls who are heavier weights, so that could be one reason you have not had one yet.

Plus, TRUST ME,…..you are in no hurry to get it…It’s not as great as you think!

Good luck, hope you get it if thats what you want!

Katie

A friend is being a “not so good friend” she likes someone that I hate soooooo much and the person I hate is a Tom boy… lol

Please help what should I do with my friend cuz I really like her but i feel invisable to her…this is cuz the girl i hate is steeling her from me but I knew her since first grade, so I am not ready to lose her as a friend.        Vallarie

Dear Vallarie,

The best thing you can do if you want to still keep this friend is to continue to be a good friend to her. One way you can do this is by maybe try and see what your friend sees in this other girl. Maybe if you got to know her you would like her too.

But what ever you do don’t get angry at your friend, if she sees your negative attitude and jealous she will most likely be drawn away from you.

So continue to be a positive and fun friend to be around and there will be no reason why she will not continue to be your friend.

Good Luck!

Katie

Girl to Girl Talk

Dear Katie,

School is coming up and I want to have more confidence and have guys notice me more. I just lost a bunch of weight over the summer and people say I am really beautiful now. What can I do to feel better and because I always feel so shy and hidden. Please help me!
~ Jina

Dear Jina,

Confindence is really one of the most attractive qualities a person can have. It comes from being truely comfortable with who you are inside. Good looks dont always mean high confidence…I know many good looking people who are very insecure and not confident.

But on the other hand I know other people who are not neccesarily great looking, but they are very confident and charismatic…they are really comfortable with who they are as a person.

So just because you have lost some weight and look better on the outside, does not mean that you will automatically have higher confidence and be more out going….you are still the same person on the inside, no mater how much weight you gain or loose on the outside.

So my advice to you would be to look at the person you are and really find the good qualities that make you..YOU. Then you will have inner confidence and be comfortable with yourself on a deeper level and that will help you to be more outgoing and confident.

When you start school, set a goal to talk to at least one new person each day that you dont normally talk to…even if its just small talk like “hey, Mrs. Smith is really a crazy teacher, huh!?”

Just opening up and realizing that people are not judging you as much as you are judging yourself. Be positive and people will respond to you in a positive way!

Good luck sweetie!

Katie

My boyfriend is really sweet but I kinda just want to be single and see other people.  I really like him and i dunno if he likes me back but i think he does coz he keeps kissing me all the time but sometimes i just wanna be free what do i do?                      ~ Shanin

Dear Shanin,

If you really want to be free, talk to your boyfriend about taking a break to see how you feel when you are not with him.

This will give you some time to get clarity on the whole situation and you will see if you do still have feelings for your boyfriend, or if it is time to move on.

You may realize that you do still really like your boyfriend and that you want to continue to see him….or on the other hand you may realize that there are other guys that fullfill your needs better and have a stronger connection with.

So I think it is always good to be true to yourself and explore all of your options and date different types of guys to see who you really mesh best with. Why settle for good when you can have GREAT!?

Good Luck Hun!

Katie

Dear Katie,

What happens when you are talking to someone trying to get to know him, and then you see your ex for the first time in three years. Your feelings come back for your ex but your really feeling the guy you are trying to get to know now.

When you and your ex left each other, it was all ended on good terms.  But now he is back trying to win your love again… Have you ever been in a situation like this? If so, what happened?  What should I do?

Peace n Love

Riley

Dear Riley,

Well you have invested a lot of time with this ex….but remember ex’s anre ex’s for a reason.  So precede with caution and remember why it didn’t work out the first time.

It also depends on how you feel about him. Sounds like he wants you back, but do you want him back?  What are your true feelings?  These are questions to start asking yourself.

Here is what I would do in your situation.  Keep your options open…continue to get to know this new guy, it could lead to a great relationship.  But keep your relationship with your ex casual, dont give too much of yourself at first.  Make sure he knows that you just want to be strictly friends for now.  Keep it light and happy…nothing too serious and heavy with your ex-boyfriend.

After a little while you will know what is best…to keep your ex as a friend and continue your relationship with the new guy….or dump the new guy and get back with your ex.

xoxo

Katie

I’m a little confused and frustrated. How can i get them to ask me ?  Thank you so much for your help!   ~ Mica

 

Dear Mica,

FLIRT BACK! They probably like you which is why they are flirting with you but maybe they dont think you are interested in them.

If they see you flirt and feel the vibe that you are interested in them too they will be more confident that you will say yes if they ask you out.

No one likes to be rejected, so maybe they are not asking you out in fear that you will reject them.

So open up and dont be afraid to flirt back with them. Compliment him in a fun way or joke around and laugh with him, and give him a little nudge here and there during the conversation…a little body contact is always a sure way of flirting…even if you just touch their shoulder of their hand.

These subtle hints will be sure signs that you are interested too!

Good Luck Sweetie!

Katie

Which part of the face do is good to highlight? I want to give my face volume and better shape? Do you have any good makeup tricks or tips for doing this? I want it to look natural and just enhance my features. ~ Brandy

Dear Brandy,

The best way to give your face better volume and enhanced shape, use a highlighting powder on your upper check bone and use a lowlight/bronzer for just under your check bone. This will help give your checks structure and volume. It will bring out your cheeks beautifully.

Most girls don’t realize that the cheeks are the most flattering part of a girl’s face and highlighting them can make the most dramatic change in the way you look without being obvious.

xoxoxo

Katie

Dear Girl to Girl,

I’m dying my hair dark brown for Halloween its the temporary 10 day color.

Do u think it’s a good idea?? Does dark brown turn out different of dirty blonde hair?

Olivia

Dear Olivia,

Honestly I think it is a bad idea. The temporary hair color will not wash out completly in 10 days. When they say “10 days” they mean it will look like that brown color for 10 days before it starts to fade to a less brown color.

If I were you I wouldn’t risk ruining your hair color just for halloween. Instead you could get a cute brown synthetic wig or the hair paint that washes out when you take a shower.

Good luck!

Katie

Dear Kate,

My Ex-boyfriend has no life so he has decided to invent tales about me that are not true, so what should I do?

It seems like everyone is asking me about it like they believe what they are hearing and I am having to constantly prove that the rumors are not true?

How can I get him to stop? Peace & Luv, Chloe

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Dear Chloe,

The best thing you can do is let it go…

What this guy wants is for you to get upset and hurt over this, so don’t let him. The more energy and attention you give it the more you are giving this guy what he wants.

So just let it go and even make light of it and joke about it, that will probably piss him off more than anything because he is trying to get you to react…and when you don’t react the way he anticipated you would, he will be frustrated and annoyed.

xoxo