Hi Katie,

Hey Katie, thanks for answering my last question about if a boy liked me or not and with your answer I think he does like me. But how am I going to tell him that I want to be more than just friends?

Rach, 13

Dear Rach,

When it comes being more than friends, there is a fine line and once you cross it there is no turning back. If you do tell him how you feel, just be prepared for if he doesn’t share your feelings. Things can get awkward, so to play it safe, maybe you can flirt more with him in hopes that he will get the hint and ask you out.

Take matters into your own hands by flirting with him! This can mean touching him lightly on the arm, for example, or laughing at his jokes. Just be playful and communicate that you’re interested. Compliment him! For example you could say something like, “I love your style!” This will differentiate you from a friend zone into the dating zone.

Also, here is a little tip on what NOT to do when asking a guy out. Don’t run up to him and say the words quickly. And defiantly DO NOT have a friend tell him that you like him! Guys HATE that! It is embarrassing and they will think you are immature.

Dear Katie,

I like this boy…a lot. He acts like he likes me…a lot. He walks me home from the bus a lot. He is shy. Not when he walks me home but when we are talking at school. I don’t know why.

I say hi to him and he says hi and then turns to talk to someone else. I do not know what is going on when he does that. But then he is so sweet when he walks me home. I don’t know if I should ask him out or if I should just let it stay a friendship. I don’t want it to get awkward between us, so I don’t know what to do.

Sarah, 13

Dear Sarah,

Some guys are just better one on one then when they are with a group of their friends or people. It sounds like he is more himself when he is just one on one with you walking home from the bus.
You wanna know if you should ask him out or not. I think it may be a little too soon to ask him out since you are not really sure of how he feels. If you do ask him out, just be prepared for if he doesn’t share your feelings. Like you said, things can get awkward, so wait a little longer to see if he shows any signs that he likes you back.

If I were you, I would remain friends and occasionlly flirt with him and hint at liking him and find reasons to hang out with him more. This would help set up opportunities for him to ask me out and for him to flirt back too if he likes me.

So suggest to him that you really wanna see a new movie playing or that you wanna learn a new video game he plays or something. See if he suggests you guys see the movie together or if he offers to teach you the game. This way you are not putting him on the spot by asking straight out if he likes you back. You are giving him a chance to show you that he is interested without having to come out and say it.

Hey, I saw your video and I was just wondering, there is this boy who like me and I think he likes me so I want to ask him out but there are so many reasons not to ask him out.

Like, he hangs around with geeky boys, my friends think he’s ugly, he’s super shy and he’s shorter than me.

I realy don’t know what to do will you make a video on it please? Thank you ~Abby

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Dear Abby,

Sounds like you really like this guy for who he is. Think about it this way…you are the one dating him, not your friends. So if I were you, I would just not tell my friends I was dating him so that I didn’t have to listen to all their negative comments about why I shouldn’t be dating him. If there is no way to avoid your friends knowing that you are going out with him, then just tell them about all the good things that you like about him so that maybe they will see the positive side of him. If you are afraid they will tease you more for liking him, then maybe just hang out with him after school in the beginning and see if you really do like him. That way, if you do end up liking him a lot you can just tell your friends that you are with him.

Who you go out with is your business, don’t let your friends taste in guys effect who you do or don’t date. If there is still something about this guy you like, regardless of all the things you mentioned that weren’t great about him, then there must be something that is still intriguing you about this guy. So I think it would definitely be worth it to see where it goes!

xoxo

Hi Girl to Girl Talk,

There is a guy I want to go to home coming with but I don’t know how I should ask him and if he already has a date or would even want to go with me.

Anybody know any cute tips on how? Or any advice?

xoxo Alexa
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Dear Alexa,

You should just flirt with him and start casual conversation. Then bring up the dance during your conversation. Maybe see if he is going with anyone yet…

Like ask him if he has a hot date yet…and if not, does he want one? Be flirtatious and sweet when asking him.

Or maybe in the midst of the conversation maybe he will suggest you both go together and you won’t even have to ask!

Good luck!

Katie

 Girl to Girl Talk